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You are allowed to be both a masterpiece and a work in progress simultaneously
August 6, 2016
There has been one consistent flaw that has inundated itself through most parts of my life. Among other things it has caused strife in my relationships and an incorrect perception of who I am. When it gets the best of me I become someone I don’t like.
In my eyes it’s my biggest fault but I know that to be a better version of myself I need to work hard to overcome it. From the very moment it begins to bubble up.
I do not think anger is entirely bad because it can sometimes motivate me to use it in a positive way. We all have a decision to be better or just get worse. We must decide to either be ruled by our emotions or be the ruler of them.
I know our environment shapes us, but I believe we are born with our own unique personality traits and certain emotions are stronger than others. When I think back at myself I’ve always been mostly introverted. I don’t believe anything made me that way; it’s just part of who I am. Same goes with my anger. It has always been there but it is not who I am. I am first and foremost a daughter of God and I am more than a conqueror. So many times we label others by those things that we see but we are quick to forget we each have things we fight.
What holds you down? That certain characteristic that you don’t exactly view as a strength but more a weakness? It took me a while to admit I was an angry person and even though I know it, it still seems weird to say. My anger doesn’t come out always as outbursts through yelling and screaming. My anger is internal and I let it well up inside.
James 1:19 NLT says, “19 Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry. 20 Human anger does not produce the righteousness God desires.”
I have realized that I am not slow to anger. Anger comes easily to me and the things that anger me quickly may seem foolish to someone else. Because anger comes to me so easily I have had to implement coping mechanisms to get me through moments of frustration. Here are some things that help me conquer my anger maybe they can help you as well.
Daily I have to practice self-control and daily I’m learning that I’m just human. I’m not perfect but I also need to strive to be better. We all need to strive to be better and we cannot compare ourselves to each other. Comparing ourselves to others can cause us to overvalue someone or something else and in turn undervalue ourselves. We can only work to make changes in ourselves. I get angry with my children, my husband, family, and friends but the only person I can work to change is myself. Comparison helps nothing.
YOU CAN ONLY CHANGE YOURSELF
As I grow physically and spiritually,
I learn to accept who I am, appreciate what
I have,grow where I am in life, and
love how God made me. However, it is a process and at times, I am still tempted to compare.
“Comparison is the thief of joy”
All the emotions we carry (anger, bitterness, sadness, hate, fear, loneliness, lust etc.) are parts of us but they do not define us. I am not anger. I am a daughter of God. We are sons and daughters of God. I chose to be better; I chose to find ways to use my anger wisely. If we continue to let our emotions get the best of us they will do more harm than good. They will sabotage us which will not only hurt us but others as well.
Proverbs 29:11 NIV
“11 Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end.”
I will choose wisdom.
26 “In your anger do not sin” : Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, 27 and do not give the devil a foothold.
I will daily fight so that the devil will not have any foothold in my life. I will find victory in this situation!